Dating as a short man: The highs and lows

Short guys often complain that it’s hard to find a woman – I’ve never felt that way’
Robert 5ft 1in (pictured above, with an ex)

Sweden is famous for being a country of tall blond men. But I never felt that I stand out too much. I have always been friends with very tall people – most of my male friends are between 180cm and 190cm (5ft 11in and 6ft 3in) – and that has made me feel comfortable around tall people.

Of course people have mentioned my height from time to time, but I have not been bullied for it. I was just the short guy in the class.

OK, some annoying things have happened over the years – like when people want to lift you up because you are easy to lift.

Probably the most annoying thing is when someone asks you about your height and you tell them, and then they say, “OMG! That short?”

It’s like, “Dude, I’m standing here, did I suddenly get shorter when I told you my height in numbers?”

Sometimes I feel that maybe life would be different if I was taller, but at the same time if I was taller would I still be the person I am? There was talk about giving me a hormone injection to make me grow when I was a kid. They did an X-ray on my arm to see if my bone had hardened or I could still grow.

I’m aware that short guys often complain that it’s hard to find a woman, but I have never felt that way at all. It’s always been easy for me to befriend women. It just comes naturally and maybe that is the key, not trying too hard and not feeling that your height is a handicap. If I’m on a date I don’t give my height a second thought. The women I have dated have ranged from 155cm (my height) to 175cm (5ft 9in).

‘Many women won’t date anyone under 6ft’
Chris, 5ft 7in (170cm)

I did an experiment on the dating app, OkCupid. I originally listed my height as 5ft 7in and I didn’t get many matches – on average, about one a week. I sent a message to all of these matches but only 20% replied. Then I changed my height to 6ft 1in and I got three times more matches – and I got replies 50% of the time. Unfortunately, many women in London won’t date anyone under 6ft.

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